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Sexual education is critical moral engineering

United States Ambassador to Trinidad and Tobago, John L Estrada, feature speaker at the Family Planning Association of TT (FPATT) Report to the Nation and its 60th anniversary observation held at the Hilton Trinidad, last Wednesday, said he learned about sex “along the way.” Estrada said he learned about respect for self and others in the Marine Corps, and it was not until very late in life that he finally succeeded at figuring out how to have the loving marital relationship he had long sought.

“I’m lucky I managed to make good choices even with this hodgepodge education about something so central to being human. There was no formal sex education when I went to school here in Trinidad.

I learned from what I saw around me, and most of it was not healthy.

“As a father, I want something better for my children. I want them to learn about sex in a careful, intentional, values driven, evidence-based way.

As a leader I believe that sexual education is one of the most critical pieces of moral and civil engineering we can give to our children because ultimately, sexual education is about teaching our children to respect themselves, to respect others and to respect the integrity of the family,” said the father of twin daughters.

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Estrada said it was hard to talk about sex, much less agree about how to talk about it, which was why diverse citizens, with diverse religious and cultural backgrounds have struggled to agree how and when and if they should talk to their young people about sex.

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He said parents generally preferred that sex education happen at home.

“But, if every dad feels as shy about giving the ‘sex talk’ as I do, I guarantee that it’s being avoided, that it’s not always happening, that it’s not happening as candidly as it could, and that some parents simply aren’t prepared to give it,” he said.

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The ambassador said one could see by the high teen pregnancy rates, the unacceptable incidence of domestic violence, bullying of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex (LGBTI) community and occurrence of human trafficking that leaving sexual education to be done in the home, simply did not work.

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He added that it was our responsibility as a society not to leave something so important to chance.

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“Our young people are learning about sex outside the home, from images they see in the media– at Carnival time in Trinidad, and during Super Bowl half-time in the US– from lyrics they hear on the radio, from pressures they feel in society.

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“When you learned about sex did you learn what you needed to know to make the best decisions? Did you learn to respect yourself and others? Did you learn about the importance of family? We need to counter the sexual education which our children are exposed to with purposeful conversation, in community meetings, at church, in public debates and in schools,” Estrada said.

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